In our India, marriage was considered a ritual. Now you must be thinking why I am saying this. Is it not considered anymore? What is the meaning of this? Well, today we are going to talk about this issue.
The culture of living relationship and Boyfriends/Girlfriends
Welcome friends in my article today ! Till a long time ago, marriage was considered a ritual in our society. Marriage was not just considered a ritual but a social ritual. Marriage was not just the union of two people but it was the union of two homes and two communities. But it is with great sadness that I have to say that now the whole context of marriage has changed. Ever since it started dominating the social media and Bollywood people, marriage has become a game for some people. Do you know from where this culture of boyfriend and girlfriend or live-in relationship has come? When did live-in relationships and this culture of boyfriend/girlfriend come to our country? Did you hear this word 15 or 20 years ago or not? Did this culture exist during the time of our parents? If not, then who put it in your mind? This culture was told to us by the Bollywood people and Bollywood adopted this culture from the West. If I ask you whether your parents are living in a live-in relationship in the name of checking compatibility, no, right? But still are they happy with each other? We have also made girlfriends and boyfriends and even tried living in a live-in relationship? Still we are not happy with our partners and in the end we take a divorce.
The condition of married man today
Well, coming back to the issue, earlier when there was domestic violence on women, the government gave them the freedom to take divorce. But there was a problem in this that after taking divorce how will the woman earn her living? How will she feed herself? Because during this the woman is not educated enough so that she can earn her living by doing a job. Then the government made a law which is named by “Alimony Laws”. According to this law, after divorce the husband has to pay his wife’s alimony. Alimony is also known as “spousal support” or maintenance. And actually domestic violence used to happen against women and it is even today happening with the women of villages and villages and there should be a law for such women, which I fully support. But now by using this law some women have turned marriage into a business. Yes, you will not believe it but this is a fact.
The actual problem with Mens
I am talking about those women who are well educated, who do jobs. If you do a little research then you will come to know how many fake cases there are regarding domestic violence against men. The biggest thing is that there is no law for men in India. For some women, marriage has become just a way to earn money. Get married today, get divorced tomorrow and take alimony and if the husband is unable to pay the alimony then make him run to the court. Is it really fair? For some women, man has become an ATM card. A man forgets all his happiness and works day and night for his home, his wife and children. For them, he fights with the society, in the office he listens to the taunts of his boss every day, for whom? And in return I only want that his family remains happy.
The recent case of Atul Subhash
Just a few days ago, we saw how the suicide of Late Mr. Atul Subhash created a debate among the people that is there any justice for a man in India or not?
Late Mr. Atul Subhash was born in Bihar and he was an AI engineer in an automobile company in Bangalore. He married a girl named Nikiti Singhaniya in 2019, with whom he has a 4-year-old son. Till here everything was fine but in the year 2021, his wife accused him of many things like domestic violence, unnatural sex and dowry harassment. Still Atul did not accept defeat. He kept fighting for justice. He mentioned in his suicide note that he had to come to Bangalore more than 120 times for court hearings regarding his case and had to travel from Bangalore to Jodhpur more than 40 times.
What happened to next ?
Despite that he did not get justice. We cannot even imagine what would have happened to Atul and how distressed he would have been mentally. Due to which he had to commit suicide.In his 24-page suicide note accompanied by an 80-minute video, Atul alleged that his wife and his in-laws made financial demands of ₹3 crore on him. He also claimed that he was demanded ₹30 lakh to meet his son. He also mentioned corruption and favoritism in the judicial system, particularly accusing Jaunpur Family Court Chief Justice Rita Kaushik of corruption and exploitation. Not only this, but a few hours before his death, Atul had tagged Elon Musk and Donald Trump in a post on social media platform He wrote, “A dead man is requesting this to you…”
still “justice is due” for atul subhash.
Conclusion
In India, marriage was once seen as a sacred bond between two families, but today it is becoming a means of transaction for some people. Laws made for the protection of women are necessary, but when it is misused, how it can destroy someone’s life, its result can be known from Atul’s story. The tragic incident of Atul Subhash is not just the story of one person, but it also tells the flaws of our justice system. If we want true justice, then we have to ensure that the laws are equally fair for both men and women. We need to think whether we have forgotten the basic purpose of marriage in the guise of modernity. Has it now become just a means of economic security? Now the time has come for society to introspect on this. Marriage should be a symbol of love, trust and mutual respect, not a means of exploitation or profit. Unless we turn it in the right direction, the real importance of marriage will keep diminishing.
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